In order to have the life you dreamt of it’s important to focus on the future. We can reflect on the past but we must leave the past in the past. I have been passionate about this topic for many years and have done lots of research on this topic.
About 90% of people who set goals and don’t reach them is because a lot of the time they keep focusing on the past and getting stuck in the past and what happened to them or what they didn’t do. Lots of people have gone through some time in their life when things were not good in the past and the difference to those that move forward and those that are stuck in the past is what they decide to do from that moment.
I have been through a lot in the past I was in a women’s refuge and have had it very tough in my life. But now when I look back in the past I feel very proud of myself and what I have achieved instead of focusing on how hard it was and how much I have been through I focus on how I was able to turn my life around for my children.
My focus when I was a broke single mother on welfare and in government housing after I got out of the women’s refuge was to give my children a great life and I worked very hard to make this happen. The best way to not focus on the past and dwelling on regrets is to have goals you are focusing on. I was so focused on my goals and what I wanted to do i had no time to look back in the past with regret.
Once you reach where you want to get in life it’s important to help others. There is something empowering about giving to others. What are you passionate about? Who can you help?
What can you offer the world? Everyone has something they are passionate about that they could help with. Because I have been through abuse this is the reason I love to help women and children who have been abused. I feel so blessed with the life I have today and nothing feels better to me than when I know that because of my story I can make a difference to others or because someone heard my story they leave an abusive relationship.
This has happened many times over the years so instead of me dwelling on the past I am grateful my past can help someone else. Can you see how thinking this way can change how your past can affect the way you think in a positive way. I have a good friend Peter Burns who was once homeless and he does such amazing work now helping others who have been where he was. He is doing so well and making such an impact on others.
If everyone just did a little the world would be a better place. Whether it’s your time, recourses or money you can help. Last week I had a huge family BBQ and we had so much food left over that I wanted to see if I can help the people on the Streets and Peter told me where to take it and I went there with a family member who was visiting and she felt so good helping that she now wants to do much more. There are many ways to help others